Throw out resolutions: Set feasible and realistic goals, expert says

With a new year often comes the inclination to set resolutions which, one expert says, are often designed to fail because they promote extreme change.

“I recommend throwing out the adage of a New Year’s resolution,” said Samantha Harden, an associate professor and Virginia Cooperative Extension specialist in the College of Agriculture and Life Sciences’  Department of Human Nutrition, Foods, and Exercise at Virginia Tech. “Resolutions, as we think of them today, are designed to fail. They promote extreme change all at once versus lasting, meaningful adjustments.”

Harden said goals should be realistic.

“The most important thing is to change your mindset about where you are, what’s feasible, what’s realistic, and what environmental support you need to get you there,” she said.

Harden recommends focusing on what aspect of your life needs improvement most: mental health, hobbies, finances, social interactions, spiritual well-being or physical health.

She suggests setting short-term goals and setting long-term goals to achieve over the next year.

“Don’t let someone else tell you your why is superficial or that it lacks virtue,” she said.

It’s also normal, she said, to face setbacks while working toward goals.

“We have to acknowledge and accept that there will be ebbs and flows when working toward goals,” Harden said. “Remember, it’s all about perspective, and that can keep you going day after day, month after month, year after year.”