We can’t turn back the hands of time to recapture what is lost. We can’t even reenact the things we may have missed out on as a child. We tried our whole adult lives to find what is missing. We have felt misunderstood and ostracized. We don’t have to feel that way any longer.
My sister and I were forced to grow up way too soon. We were complimented at an early age for being so mature! Was that a compliment for having nice manners? No, it was the result of having to be the parents in our home. Don’t get me wrong; I would not change a thing about my childhood. As an adult I have had to learn to love that child in me that never got a chance to play and dream.
I did have a dream, and it was of only one thing – to get out of that house as soon as I could. What a dream that was! The sad part is that getting out of the house only changed the physical location of that little child that only wanted to be loved! That was it!
All I ever wanted was to feel loved! It wasn’t until I was in my forties that I realized the only way to feel loved was for me to finally love myself. That is really hard to do when you play the Self Blame Game! I didn’t transfer that blame to others. I accepted what happened in my life as a blessing and forgave the people who had mistreated me. It is that forgiveness that opened my heart to that precious gift of love!
We have the ability now to get to know our little child within us. We have neglected that child for a long time. Like any child, they are going to get your attention one way or another. We have let her run wild in the streets with our credit cards. She has neglected to clean her room and to eat good foods. She stays up way too late and doesn’t get enough sleep! This makes her cranky. Oh, and she spends way too much time on the computer and doesn’t get enough exercise. Do you know anyone who would allow her children to do this? So why do you allow yourself to do this?
We may not be able to reclaim our childhoods, but we can practice loving ourselves as we love our children. Gentle guidance and a reward system can help you retrain that little child in you! You can feel loved! It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3! Simple habits, strung into routines with a little decluttering can build a foundation of peace in your life!
For more help getting in touch with your inner child who has been running wild in the streets with your credit cards, check out Pam Young’s Get out of Debt book.
This book can help you with more than your debt. Just like my book helps you with more than just getting your house clean.
For more help getting rid of your CHAOS, check out Marla Cilley’s website and join her free mentoring group at www.FlyLady.net, listen to her www.blogtalkradio.com/flylady show, or read her books, Sink Reflections, published by Bantam, and her New York Times bestselling book, Body Clutter, published by Fireside. Copyright 2008 Marla Cilley. Used by permission in this publication.