Is your armor keeping you down?
Column by Marla Cilley
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Have you been wearing your heart on your sleeve? Do you perceive that you have been wronged in some way by others? Are you wearing all the wrongs like a cloak of armor? Have these wrongs been the foundation for your whining?
Are they what have kept you from FLYing? Armor is heavy stuff!
When we blame others we need to look closely at our own actions. This is why we tell you that this is a NO WHINING ZONE!
Tribes used to sacrifice a poor innocent goat for their sins. They would heap all their sins on the scapegoat and send it out into the wilderness. Have all the wrongs been heaped upon you? Do you feel like the scapegoat? Are you acting like a martyr? Read more
Bridges from the past to the present
Column by Marla Cilley
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As I look back on the past year asked my members what was one of their Go Me Moments. I had to ask myself the same question. What had happened that was an accomplishment for me, and what had changed my way of thinking?
The biggest accomplishment for me was when Leanne and I went to Utah and read our book, Body Clutter, aloud. I have never been comfortable reading out loud. Spending a week with Leanne as we read was the turning point in my oral skills. She taught me how to read. Well, I knew how to read, but not without awkward pauses. Her simple analogy of scallops gave me the visual I needed to make the words flow from my mouth. I learned to read to a conjunction or a comma, then pause slightly and proceed. Thanks, Leanne, for helping me to overcome a fear and giving me the gentle coaching while making me laugh. I will never forget it. Read more
Actions speak louder
FlyLady column by Marla Cilley
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Love is a word that is very deceptive, maybe even elusive, if we look at it as a noun.
It is not something that we can buy and hold in our hands; it is a word that is filled with action. Love is a verb. This word is not just a feeling; it is a doing. For years, all I ever wanted was to feel loved. That did not happen because I was looking for love in all the wrong places, as the song says. I was not going to find this love coming at me and surrounding me as a fog. I was not going to feel this love from other people. I was searching so hard for this love that I never dreamed that it was hiding right inside of me. The reason we have a hard time finding this love is that the clutter we have in our heads is standing in the way. When we can address this most personal of our Body Clutter, we will begin finding what we are looking for. Read more
Christmas wrapping making us nuts
FlyLady column by Marla Cilley
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Are you like the old woman who lived in a shoe, except you have so much wrapping paper that you don’t know what to do! Wrapping paper is expensive, and it takes over our craft room, extra bedroom or the dining room table when that time of year rolls around. It’s here!
Many years ago, my mother bought a huge roll of red Christmas paper. I can still see this hideous print in my head. I think she wrapped presents with it for 10 years. After she died, there was still some of it left! I was never so happy as to discard that paper.
I will never forget my stepfather opening a gift with his pock Read more
The FlyLady | Plan your meals around soup day
Column by Marla Cilley
When Robert and I married 13 years ago, my grandmother told him I was bossy! Oh, well, you have to be known for something. I guess this is what happens when you are the oldest. My Granny started telling me to be “saving.” She had lived through the Great Depression, World War II and had been widowed at age 29 with two children. My mother was 8 years old and her brother was 6 when their father died. Granny had three mouths to feed. Read more
The FlyLady | 11 steps for a stress-free holiday season
Every year we declare that this year we will be ready for the holidays, and every single year we find ourselves wrapping gifts or running to the grocery at the last minute.
Do you want to have a stress-free holiday? I can see you affirming this with your head nods! Well, it is not going to happen if you just sit and wish things could be different. It is going to take a little action on your part for you to have a peaceful Cruise through the Holiday. Read more
Cabin fever
Posted by afp on January 31, 2010 · Leave a Comment
Column by Marla Cilley
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When we first married, the patch of dirt in front of our home would not grow anything. We are surrounded by a forest. The only open spot is just above our home and where a maple tree had to be removed. Direct sunlight only happens at noon. I spent a whole winter plotting and scheming.
When I moved into Robert’s home in 1996, I was determined to make it mine, too. I was not going to move in and not unpack! This went for the yard, too! The first thing I needed to do was to figure out what I liked and what I didn’t like about the front yard. Read more
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