Comments on: Learning to grieve http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/ The Valley. Virginia. Defined. News from AugustaFreePress.com. Wed, 23 May 2012 08:45:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Peggy Moore http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/comment-page-1/#comment-3518 Peggy Moore Mon, 28 Jan 2008 13:41:07 +0000 http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/#comment-3518 Chris, Excellent recap of your conversation with Ms. Lasher. Lives do change forever! If I could emphasize one thing, it's that people grieving need friends who will truly "listen" to them, not just today or tomorrow, but whenever they need to talk about their loss. That person is still in their hearts and it is healthy to talk about them and share the wonderful memories of their special life! GOD gave me Christina for only fifteen years but I am grateful for every moment I had with such a precious person in my life. Crystal and I gained much strength from the LORD and from the people he surrounded us with, and we continue to do so today! Chris,
Excellent recap of your conversation with Ms. Lasher. Lives do change forever! If I could emphasize one thing, it’s that people grieving need friends who will truly “listen” to them, not just today or tomorrow, but whenever they need to talk about their loss. That person is still in their hearts and it is healthy to talk about them and share the wonderful memories of their special life! GOD gave me Christina for only fifteen years but I am grateful for every moment I had with such a precious person in my life. Crystal and I gained much strength from the LORD and from the people he surrounded us with, and we continue to do so today!

]]> By: chrisgraham http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/comment-page-1/#comment-3521 chrisgraham Tue, 22 Jan 2008 19:52:26 +0000 http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/#comment-3521 One person who wrote me to offer condolences over the recent death of my father said his father had died in 1983, and yet it felt like it was yesterday. One person who wrote me to offer condolences over the recent death of my father said his father had died in 1983, and yet it felt like it was yesterday.

]]> By: C Kensington http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/comment-page-1/#comment-3520 C Kensington Tue, 22 Jan 2008 18:29:20 +0000 http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/#comment-3520 There are some things that people simply do not get over. Dealing with the loss of a loved one does not follow any proscribe timeline. My husband was twelve years old when he lost his father, and now, forty years later, he still suffers greatly in the days and weeks that surround the date his dad died. I don't expect he will ever "get over it." He has learned over the years, though, to expect to have a hard time emotionally at that time of year. And he has found ways to channel the emotional energy into creative pursuits. But get over it? Not likely. There are some things that people simply do not get over. Dealing with the loss of a loved one does not follow any proscribe timeline.

My husband was twelve years old when he lost his father, and now, forty years later, he still suffers greatly in the days and weeks that surround the date his dad died. I don’t expect he will ever “get over it.” He has learned over the years, though, to expect to have a hard time emotionally at that time of year. And he has found ways to channel the emotional energy into creative pursuits.

But get over it? Not likely.

]]> By: Tom Carlsson http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/comment-page-1/#comment-3519 Tom Carlsson Tue, 22 Jan 2008 14:33:22 +0000 http://augustafreepress.com/2008/01/21/learning-to-grieve/#comment-3519 Chris, I think Ms Lasher has it exactly right. Grieving for a lost parent or loved one can be a long and often difficult process. But it should not be rushed or something one can expect to quickly move on from. Eventually, almost all of us can put the worst of the grief behind us and return to happier times. Sometimes, that period is a few months or even much longer. But with the support of friends and family, that hurtful spot in your heart begins to heal. So give it time and stay busy with the things you enjoy in life. For all of us that have lost parents early in life, Ms. Lashers words are a comfort and ring true. Chris,

I think Ms Lasher has it exactly right. Grieving for a lost parent or loved one can be a long and often difficult process. But it should not be rushed or something one can expect to quickly move on from. Eventually, almost all of us can put the worst of the grief behind us and return to happier times. Sometimes, that period is a few months or even much longer. But with the support of friends and family, that hurtful spot in your heart begins to heal. So give it time and stay busy with the things you enjoy in life. For all of us that have lost parents early in life, Ms. Lashers words are a comfort and ring true.

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